SAN DIEGO, April 30, 2014 – Tattoos are no longer reserved for bikers and outlaws. They have exploded in popularity even among so-called “respectable” people.
According to a 2013 study by the Pew Research Center, 14 percent of all Americans have at least one tattoo. This is 45 million people. The percentage increases to forty percent for adults between 26 and 40 years old. Thirty percent of people with a tattoo says it makes them feel sexy; 29 percent said it makes them feel rebellious.
Sexy plus rebellious adds up to the latest category of tattoo trends: the divorce tattoo.
Tattoos have become a way for women to declare their independence and tell the world they have moved on from their marriage. Tattoo photos are shared and discussed on social media like Facebook, on blogs, and especially on Pinterest.
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Women who have divorce tattoos explain their reasons. Sandra S. explained, “After my divorce I got four tattoos, and counting. Just know that tattoos are a collaboration with the artist…”
Ash is ready to leap: “I’ve never wanted a tattoo until my divorce. Now I’ve been wanted to get three little birds on my foot, because I feel free.”
Angela V wrote, “I cannot put into words the relief I felt leaving my daughter’s father for good…. Tattoos are not really my thing, though I like them on other people. Whatever one needs to do to move on and regain their sense of autonomy is fine by me.”
But Mistress S. disagreed. “I’m a divorced woman, now remarried. Getting a permanent reminder of the impact my first husband had on me at one point seems counterproductive. The idea is to move on with your life, and truly moving on means not carrying around reminders of the old relationship… Call me crazy, but that just seems to be the opposite of moving on.”
Divorce coach Cindy Holbrooke of Ridgecrest, California says celebrating your divorce with a tattoo or in any other way is a show of love and compassion for yourself. She writes, “Maybe your ex did not like tattoos or maybe it is something you have secretly desired but was never brave enough to admit it or go for it. A tattoo can be a daily visual reminder of your past and your commitment to make a better future for yourself. Think of something that has the meaning of rebirth or freedom such as birds, butterflies or a rising sun.”
One note of caution from Lawyer Myra, who works with people who have regrets day in and day out: in the same Pew Research Study, one in three people who get a tattoo say they regret it. Proceed with caution.
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Myra Chack Fleischer serves as Lead Counsel for Fleischer & Ravreby in Carlsbad, California with a focus on divorce, property, custody and support, settlement agreements, mediation, asset division and family law appeals. Read more Legally Speaking in Communities Digital News. Follow Myra on Twitter: @LawyerMyra. Fleischer can be reached via Google +
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