MISSOURI, September 3, 2014 — This story goes back to the 60s and about a young man who had everything going for him: good looks, charisma and intelligent. He was also a very compassionate man and one might say a heart of gold. Divorced early in his marriage but blessed with a beautiful boy.
We will call him “BIG GUY,” which he loved to be called, and he thought this represented all of his “Playboy” qualities that he was now exercising since his divorce-another Arthur.
The story starts now when he went to work for a major corporation and was given the responsibility to set up a technology department—at that time it was a punch-card operation that eventually was the fourth computer operations in the city—and he was very successful in accomplishing this task. But now comes the problem of alcohol. Everything came easy; he was loved by all and life was a blast. He had a beautiful girl friend who loved him very much and a great relationship with his son.
With his playboy lifestyle, he started drinking and loved his bourbon in a tall glass and steaks medium rare. The story has it that he was driving in his thunderbird, the ultimate car in those days, when a policeman pulled him over and came up to his car and flipped his ticket book open and “Big GUY” said to the officer, “Give me a hamburger and a chocolate malt,” demonstrating his drunken and flamboyant air.
Now the computer age arrived, and the corporation installed the latest technology which was a dramatic change in the way corporations operated their business. Now by this time, BIG GUY was loving life and drinking to the point he was late coming to work, vendors taking him to martini luncheons and finally leaving work early and heading for his favorite “drinking hole” before picking up his girlfriend and doing the town. This was done during the week and weekends.
By now, he had lost touch relative to his job responsibilities and was delegating all responsibilities to certain line managers. This became very noticeable at the corporate board meetings and was being tolerated because of past performance and his personality.
By now, Big Guy was an alcoholic. This one winter day, a huge snow storm hit the city and it was so bad the employees could not go home. Everyone got some coffee and had conversations except one person: yes, Big Guy, who was drinking alone. He became unbearable, insulting and out of control, which immediately led to his dismissal. A twenty-year career down the tubes because he had become an alcoholic and went wild professionally and socially. This resulted in embarrassment for his son, family, his girlfriend of ten years and of course, himself.
It has been said his “so-called friends” that he had acquired during his playboy days were now gone, and he lost his girlfriend and now had to resort to a completely different lifestyle that he had never experienced—it is a shame that people have to drink to excess to have fun. The favorite word that applies to life is moderation.
However, that’s from a time and place I am from-