WASHINGTON. Did you ever have one of those days where things just weren’t going your way? We all have. It’s a part of life. But did you know you can shift your energy and get different results? Doesn’t sound like much but it’s huge. It involves nothing less than taking command of your life.
You have a choice to direct how your day goes. Even if things seem to be going in the wrong direction, realizing that and deciding “enough is enough” is powerful. I use this tool all the time. You can too!
We all have choices
Here’s an example of what happened to me recently.
- The other day, I went down to the basement to get something and I saw a puddle of water by the freezer. Sorry for the pun, but the freezer had a meltdown. Of course this happened the day after taking a big shopping trip to Costco.
- Next, I had a flat tire.
- After that, the air conditioning tech cancelled my appointment. And of course, it was sticky, hot, and humid outside.
That’s when I decided to shift my energy.
Sound impossible? It’s not! Taking command of your life involves shifting your mindset from “what’s going to go wrong next” to “how can I change my day to a productive one?”
I literally thought to myself “I’ve had enough of things going in a negative direction.” The minute I noticed my thoughts going in a nonproductive way, I made a conscious effort to shift my energy and mindset.
Taking command of your life
I agree with Jim Rohn, an American entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker. He sums this up when he says,
“I found that when you start thinking and saying what you really want, then your mind automatically shifts and pulls you in that direction. And sometimes it can be that simple, just a little twist in vocabulary that illustrates your attitude and philosophy.”
For me, that’s Taking Command of Your Life. After all, what have you got to lose? Life is too short to fill our time with stress, impatience and a non-resilient attitude. When you know there’s choice, take it and embrace it. There are too many times when things are out of our control.
Understand that thought patterns, even those we’ve had for many years, can be changed if we train ourselves to think a different way and form new habits. Just because a few things go wrong doesn’t mean they have to continue to go in that direction. Shift your mindset to a more productive mantra such as, “I’m shifting to making this a great day and nothing’s going to stop me.”
When I noticed my negative thoughts I knew I had to change my reactions and act differently. I needed to keep things in perspective. So when I saw the puddle of water by the freezer, I decided to salvage what I could, then, couldn’t, and what I can’t… oh well.
Shifting your mindset
When the tire pressure indicator light went on in the car, showing the air pressure drop from 32 to 0 in a few seconds, at first I had a slight feeling of panic. But then, I calmed myself down with the thought that at least I’m close to home and I’m safe. And when that AC tech called to cancel, I thought, okay, my allergies aren’t that bad, so I’ll make do for now until we can reschedule.
So how do you view things? Is that not working for you? By shifting your thoughts, you can shift your energy, and the day can end up with a better outcome. As for my bad day?
- The freezer was fixed the next day.
- Better yet, after talking to the car dealership, I learned I had an ‘MBO’ tire, which meant I could ride on a flat for fifty miles. So I was drove the car to the dealership and didn’t need a tow truck.
- Because the AC tech had cancelled, I was also able to get a new tire installed on the car that afternoon, not to mention it was nice and cool at the car dealership. Funny how things work out.
Build your resistance level
As well-known spiritual teacher and author Eckhart Tolle says,
“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”
Build your resilience level. In the face of stress, be aware of your feelings and learn how to manage your emotions. Remember, emotions are not static. They change. Being aware of your emotional state can help you regain your equilibrium.
For example, if you respond in a certain way to stressful situations, and if that way often fails to work for you, simply try a different approach. A client tells me he has a very low patience level, and it doesn’t take him long to go from zero to one hundred on the stress meter in adverse situations. Adopting my positive self-talk strategies in addition to meditation and breath work, he has gradually learned to slow down, pause, and react in a calmer way.
The next time your day doesn’t seem like a bed of roses, keep the stressful situations that pop up in perspective. Shift to the glass half-full metaphor. Calm your thoughts, pause, take a breath and shift your mindset and energy to one that’s productive. That’s taking command of your life.
Remember: It’s always your choice!
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Susan Commander Samakow, PCC, CPCC
Certified Business, Life & Career Coach and Author Focusing on Confidence & Resilience Strategies and Transition
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