WASHINGTON, August 30, 2014 — You’re young and in love, and you live four hours away from your beloved. What’s a young person to do? Move in together, Duggar style.
Ben Seewald is moving to the Duggar homestead, where his courtship with Jessa can be captured for the TLC show, 19 Kids and Counting.
Jessa seems to be a bit more of the maverick than older sister Jill, but not quite what we can expect from sibling Jinger, who has already said she hopes to one day live in New York City.
Which is very much not Duggar. Born in December, 1993, the soon-to-be 21-year-old might make that move and, well, you kind of hope she does. Because it would prove that good values do travel. And the Duggar clan has good values aplenty.
Duggar Dad Jim Bob, 49, says his new son-in-law-to-be left his parents’ home in Hot Springs, Arkansas, to live on the Duggar estate, but not in the main house.
“We have a guesthouse in front of our house, with a shower and everything, separate from the main house,” reveals Duggar of his future son-in-law’s new digs.
Seewald, 19, will “work for his keep” while being able to spend more time with his intended, to whom he recently proposed. According to Duggar,
We have so many projects to do that we need help for — everything from construction projects to keeping the grass mowed to putting roof on a building, paperwork and things like that — and we asked him if he would be interested in moving up here so that Jessa and his relationship could be really accelerated … [Seewald] was all for it and his parents were happy about it
However in keeping with Duggar tradition, the affianced will spend little time together. Holding hands waits until after the engagement, and kissing until the altar. With a family of 19 children, mom and dad, daughter- and son-in-law, and three, soon to be four grandchildren, there’s little chance for the couple to spend time alone.
While Dad Duggar needs to watch the young couple, enforce the family laws as to curfews and such, it seems that the Duggar children accept the family formula on how to build a long lasting marriage. Duggar says,
It has been really good. He has been able to spend a lot more time with Jessa and our family.
Derick Dillard and Sister Jill Duggar married last June, announcing their pregnancy this month. Jessa’s nuptials will most likely be a fall event. Jessa explained,
The guest list is pretty big, but not as big as my sister’s. My list is a little smaller [than Jill’s was], but then Ben’s guest list is bigger than Derick’s. It will be another Duggar-sized wedding!
With immediate family enough to fill the first half dozen church pews, the wedding promises to be as large as the Dillar-Derick nuptials and, regardless of size, will be low key.
Following in the Duggar family footsteps, Ben and Jessa will save their first kiss for their wedding, just as Jill and Derick did. And while for many that might seem weird, it really makes that moment awash in romance, something that Ben seems to have some talent at.
The couple, who both boast exceedingly good looks, became engaged after Ben sent Jessa on what is described as an elaborate treasure hunt that had Jessa making a hole-in–one in miniature golf, collecting a dozen roses from strangers in the park, and completing a quiz while riding a trolley – all of which led to the final destination, Throncrown Chaple. Jessa told People magazine,
I walked in, and he was standing there at the front. I could barely talk. I knew he was going to propose. I cried.
The two are likely to exchange vows this fall or winter and will be relying on family and friends to help with the ceremony and to simply celebrate the big day. Per Duggar tradition, the wedding is sure to be cost-effective, as there will be hundreds of guests to tend to and welcome.
The Duggar family is known for using cost-saving methods such as making its own soap, shampoo, and cooking for large crowds. According to Ben,
We want to have a nice wedding that everyone will enjoy but at the same time, we’d like to push our budget more toward our honeymoon because that’s our time together. That’s our first few weeks together.
TLC, which airs the show “19 Kids and Counting,” will film the special day, as they did for Jill and Derick. Seewald says the company will also be filming part of the honeymoon, but of course, there will be plenty of private time for the newlyweds.
The new season of “19 Kids & Counting” debuts Sept. 2 on TLC.