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Transition is a time for powerful Change. And new beginnings

Written By | May 27, 2019
Transition and Change

Change and transition. Image via Pixabay.com. Public domain, CC 0.0.

WASHINGTON. May. For many, this certainly must be the month for undertaking a great amount of change and transition. Just witness the daily parade that happens each May. Clients, business associates and friends are changing jobs, careers, moving. And, sadly, going through separation and divorce.

Both my husband and I are in the middle of downsizing this month. The kids are happy and settled in their lives. So we’re ready to simplify life by moving into a condo or apartment.

Change and Transition

Briefly, change is external.

  • For example: I am moving or changing my job.

Whereas transition is an internal process.




  • Example: Before entering a new life phase, tie up loose ends and / or unfinished business so you are not dragging your old story into your new phase.

By developing an understanding of our purpose, values, and vision, you can make the process of transition easier. Transition is a time and an opportunity for powerful change.

Leaving your comfort zone

Most people resist both change and transition. Both take us out of our comfort zone.

To help with the process and to create a smooth transition, take baby steps forward instead of big leaps that can leave you overwhelmed. If you’re learning how to swim, first put a toe in the water. You don’t have to start your transition by jumping into the deep end of the pool!

I’m in the midst of change also. My husband and I are pretty busy. We both work. But in the middle of what we’re doing, we’re also downsizing, moving our things to three separate locations, caring for an elderly parent, dealing with each other’s needs and those of our kids, and keeping up with relationships.

For me, I have learned to go with the flow. I have taught myself to fill my time with ease instead of dis-ease. I literally ask myself what do I want to fill my time with? In addition, I have taught myself to fill available time by being productive rather than becoming anxious or overwhelmed. It’s a choice.

Make sense? Here are a few steps you can take to make change and transition flow with ease.

Build Awareness and Be Present

Without being aware, you can’t make a change. Notice how you’re feeling mentally, emotionally and physically. For example, I check in with myself. I ask myself, how much energy do I have? Where do I need to focus my energy?

Typically, I have the most energy in the morning, so that’s when I tackle the most challenging items.

To keep the house packing moving forward I look at it as de-cluttering. This actually helps clear my mind and makes me feel good. What works for me is scheduling some coaching sessions and alternating these with doing some work at my desk.

Helping things along by changing the pace

When I have had enough of sitting, I then do something physical, like packing, until my energy begins to lessen. Then before I go to another task, I take short breaks throughout the day. The mixture of sedentary and physical activities, punctuated by taking short breaks is a good mix for me. What works for you?



Also when my appointments are close to where my mother lives, I arrange to stop by for a visit. Then it’s back to work.

Another thing I do is arrange to take different types of breaks when my schedule gets seriously busy. Since I live close to a public golf course, I carry several golf clubs in the trunk of my car. That way, I can stop by the golf course and hit a bucket of balls at the driving range. Breaks like this one help keep me grounded and clear. Other times I will do a ten-minute meditation or simply pause and do a breathing exercise.

Self Care: It’s far from trite

For most people, change and transition can deplete energy. Consequently, it becomes essential to focus on sleep, nutrition, and on adding some form of physical exercise – playing a sport, dance, yoga, working out – to your routine. Be aware of the stress in your life. That’s because over time, increasing stress not only has a negative impact on your immune system. It also has a negative impact on your health.

Choose Your Attitude

You can let change and transition deplete your energy. Alternatively, you can choose to embrace change and transition.

Knowing you actually have a choice is subtle but empowering. This knowledge can make a huge difference in your life.

Be Flexible

Life can be harder when you resist change. Again, take baby steps in the direction of moving forward and becoming more flexible.

And flexibility is the key.

Perhaps similar many people, my husband’s natural “go to” response to changing situations is “No.” It takes him some time to shift. So when I realized we were heading towards downsizing, I began to mention it to him about a year-and-a-half ago. Plenty of time to shift.

Another example. I told him some 12 to 15 years ago to expand his business and open an office in Baltimore. Three years ago he actually did. (He now thinks both changes were his idea.)

My point is that everyone is different. There is no right or wrong regarding the length of time we take to shift; much depends on our experience and the situations we’ve had. Yet, it’s very clear that flexibility and being open to change make life easier. (I’m going to send this to my husband’s inbox!)

Create a New Comfort Zone

I know it can feel uncomfortable to step out of your customary comfort zone. When doing so, first notice how you feel. Use your body and sensations as a signal to identify where you feel the stress. That way, you can shift your mindset and your self-talk (what your thoughts are) in a new direction. That way, you can gradually overcome those initial, instinctively negative feelings and tendency to resist before they stop you.

Stepping out helps you grow. It opens you up to new possibilities.

Remember: When facing Change and Transitions, you don’t have to jump. Simply take a step. It gets easier.

– Headline image: Into the unknown: Change and transition. Image via Pixabay.com. Public domain, CC 0.0.

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Susan Samakow

Susan Commander Samakow, PCC, is a Certified Business, Life and Leadership Coach. Susan focuses on life and career transition, business and leadership, and confidence and resilience strategies. Susan is also a speaker and facilitator, as well as a Community Content Producer for WUSA 9 TV. She is the former president of the ICF Metro DC Chapter, the largest in North America. Susan’s clients are individuals, any size business and the government. Visit Susan’s website: www.selftalkcoach.com. Susan is on Facebook, Twitter, and Linked In.