WASHINGTON, March 31, 2015 − Here’s a short, simple quiz. Do you:
- Regret not finishing or following through with something you are working on?
- Want to change careers?
- Want to start a business or charity?
- Create downtime to de-stress?
- Want to eat healthier and exercise regularly?
- Dream about what’s next for you?
We all have experienced Resistance in our lives. We may not know what to call it or what label to attach to what we are feeling, but no one is exempt.
Resistance can stop us from accomplishing what we say we want in our lives, whether it’s business success, an improved personal situation or success in our relationships.
Resistance is an internal obstacle to our success that is powered by our fear. Master the fear and you will conquer resistance.
In Steven Pressfield’s best-selling book, “The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles,” he says, “To yield to Resistance deforms our spirit. It stunts us and makes us less than we are and we are born to be. Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”
How do we know when we are feeling Resistance? It shows up as an energy force that we can actually feel in our bodies. This can stop us from completing a task or prevent us from moving forward. Some of us get that feeling when we know what to do but our feet feel like they are stuck in cement and we can’t move forward.
Resistance can have different presentations. Some individuals may feel a queasiness, a kicked-in-the-stomach feeling, a tight chest or head. Although these and other presentations show up differently in our bodies, the result is the same: We get stopped or blocked from moving ahead and reaching our goals, whether business, personal or both.
Resistance can show up as self-sabotage. It can manifest in many ways such as criticism, self-doubt or unhappiness. One of the most familiar ways we experience it is through procrastination.
For example, let’s say you set a goal you want to reach, such as writing and completing a book. Next, you go to take an action step. You sit down to write and your self-talk (inner dialogue) begins: “I’m going to write my book…and I’ll begin tomorrow.”
You are well-intentioned. But the Resistance still shows up when you start your task by rationalizing and telling yourself, “I’ll begin tomorrow or next week.”
The most harmful aspect of procrastination is that it can quickly become a habit. What ultimately ends up happening is that we don’t just put something off until tomorrow. We can put it off for a lifetime.
Think about the impact and influence that can have on your life and on the lives of those around you. Danger, danger Will Robinson! (Remember that 1960s television series, “Lost in Space?”) Do not allow that situation to happen to you.
Keep this in mind: At any moment we can change our lives. Instead of putting things off, we can use our power to take that action step and create and live our destiny.
When it comes to your own situation, remember, you have to do the work. If you don’t do it now, believe me, you’ll have to do it later or live with endless regrets, with the would’ve, could’ve, should’ve excuses. You’ve heard them before and you’ll hear them again. Don’t let them be yours.
Remember that when Resistance shows up it is fueled by fear. It can and will bully us if we let it. We have to be determined and unbending to beat Resistance, and we can. After all, the bully will cower to the perceived weaker person if he stands his ground.
Here are two simple steps you can take that can unlock the blocks:
- First identify Resistance.
- Next, take out your boxing gloves, confront it and defeat it. Your present and future depend on it.
For more Information, contact:
Susan Commander Samakow, PCC, CPCC
Certified Business, Life & Leadership Coach
Focusing on Confidence & Resilience Strategies, Life & Career Transition, & Business & Leadership
www.selftalkcoach.com [email protected]
301-706-7226 or 703-574-0039
Ask Susan about the Stress Reducing techniques she teaches: EFT (Tapping) and Breathing Exercises.