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Navigate successfully through disappointment in your life and career

Written By | Mar 15, 2017

WASHINGTON, March 15, 2017 – Everyone has disappointments. That is part of life. But the important thing is how we react to disappointments. Our reactions will make the difference in our resilience level, our mood and our energy level.

We make up many different stories as why something didn’t work out in our lives. Regardless of what we tell ourselves, it’s generally true that all of us initially suffer when disappointment occurs. But what if we looked at disappointment differently, viewing it from another lens?

Disappointment is a natural part of the process of being human. It’s an emotion, like any other that we feel. It gives us information. If we don’t judge it and look at it only as information, it doesn’t have the power to deplete us. In other words, we don’t have to look at disappointment as a negative. We can view it simply as information. Looking at it that way can make a huge difference.

If you tune into the mindset of “That just didn’t work out,” as opposed to thoughts like “That’s not fair” or “This always happens to me,” your life would become much better. Shifting your mindset to looking at disappointment as information comes from a productive place and serves to raise our resilience level. This, in turn, will have a positive impact on everything you do.

Resilience is the ability to overcome challenges and adversities and turn them into opportunities. Resilience means you look at obstacles as stepping-stones, hardships as challenges, and turn failure into success in order to thrive.

Our thinking style is a major component of resilience. How we see things and how we analyze events depends on the thinking styles we have learned over our lifetimes. It’s our thinking style that determines our level of resilience and is also what causes us to respond emotionally to events. (An excellent book on this subject is “The Resilience Factor” by Karen Revich and Andrew Shatte.)

When a situation comes up, how do we think about it? Is it energizing or is it depleting our energy level? What do the effects of disappointment have on us in both the short and long term? Many of us don’t think about the residual effects involved. Non-productive thoughts and actions really do take a toll on us, both mentally and physically.

For example, when there’s excessive drama or chaos going on around us, it depletes our resilience level. Our energy gets drained. So while the “drama queen” seems to have a lot of energy at the time, he or she is actually expending energy as well as sapping the energy of the people involved or around the drama. As a result, these individuals are depleting their resilience, their ability to bounce back, to thrive even in adversity, and to handle new experiences and challenging situations.

How do you handle disappointment?

Think about the last time you felt disappointed about something, anything. What was your reaction? On a scale of 1-10, how frustrated were you? How upset were you? How drained were you?

If you want to create a new habit or pattern in learning how to deal with disappointment, regularly practice this:

When you are disappointed, view it as information instead of it permitting it to have an emotional spin. Turn disappointment into opportunity. Take command of your life!

For more Information Contact:

Susan Commander Samakow, PCC, CPCC
Certified Business, Life & Career Coach
Focusing on Confidence & Resilience Strategies and Transition
Certified Mediator
Twitter: @SelfTalkCoach

Ask Susan about her coaching packages and the Stress Reducing techniques she teaches: EFT (Tapping) and Breathing Exercises.

Susan Samakow

Susan Commander Samakow, PCC, is a Certified Business, Life and Leadership Coach. Susan focuses on life and career transition, business and leadership, and confidence and resilience strategies. Susan is also a speaker and facilitator, as well as a Community Content Producer for WUSA 9 TV. She is the former president of the ICF Metro DC Chapter, the largest in North America. Susan’s clients are individuals, any size business and the government. Visit Susan’s website: Susan is on Facebook, Twitter, and Linked In.