WASHINGTON, April 17, 2014 – With unemployment perpetually too high, employees may be forced to take a job in a city, state or country that is not their first choice.
How do you choose where to work? If you are the type of person who has a large, extensive family that you are close to, it will be virtually impossible for you to move a far distance from them. When employees move away from a family with strong ties, or a large group of close friends or any type of strong local connection, they generally cannot stay away for long.
Those ties continually pull; they are too strong to overcome. The longing for family, friends and local connections will be more powerful than any job. These employees will experience a feeling of loss that cannot be fulfilled.
If you are this type of person, consider a short-term internship or job far away from home to broaden your experience, but only take the job for a short period of time – two years maximum. For your long-term career, work close to home.
If you have moderate connections to family, friends or local community, you have a 50-50 chance of being able to move away. However, more people will be unhappy away from their connections than those who stay close-to-home.
Before any person begins a long-term career far away from your home base, they must carefully consider their emotions. What is most important – work or play? If career is more important, you will have the ability to live farther from your home base. If social life is more important, you will be continually drawn to your home base and you may be seriously unhappy away from home.
If you have a small family with a history of living apart, a small number of friends, and a weak connection to your place of origin, you have the highest probability of taking a job away from that location and succeeding in building a new life. For example, a child of military parents, who lived in multiple locations as they were growing up, often succeed in working and living in any geographic location.
There are additional variables that will impact an employee’s ability to permanently move a significant distance away from home for a job. Some employees have a significant other who has the ability to ground them in a new work location. Some employees have the means to travel easily to and from their home base. Others have the type of family and friends who encourage risk, and positively reinforce working in any location no matter the distance from home.
Many employees convince themselves to take a job far away from home because of the potential excitement and rewards. Very few employees who take a job a great distance away know that they will enter into a continual struggle against the pull of home.
There are many examples of problems experienced by those who move far away from family and friends. For example, when they have children, there is no family or friends close by to ask to pitch in and help. When its holiday time, there is no family close by to share it with. Friends and family who saw them grow up and know them well, are not nearby to serve as mentors, provide emergency assistance or to trust with their daily experiences.
The telephone, texting and face-timing are no substitutes.
Consider the wisdom provide here: Know Thyself. It is very hard to build a new life in a new location. It takes a certain type of person to be able to do it successfully and feel fulfilled in the process.
This week’s prescription: Know your distance.