HONOLULU, March 11, 2014 – These days, everyone in America wants to be in charge. It’s been said “the squeaky wheel gets the grease” and in recent years as economic scarcity has dwindled opportunities, being “assertive” and taking charge of things before others can is often conflated with leadership.
The problem with leadership based purely on assertiveness is that it implicitly assumes that a social hierarchy should exist based on the principle of might makes right: i.e., the stronger the personality, the more legitimate their right to be in charge is.
If Child A on the school playground sees Child B playing with a ball and immediately says “Let me borrow your ball, my friends and I would like to use it” the sheer act of acquiring compliance from Child B to lend the ball isn’t evidence of leadership potential, it’s simply being bossy. Real leadership is based on authority, authority is derived from legal, moral or spiritual precedent and command is the proper exercise of leadership.
As Abraham Lincoln once said, “if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.”
America is already rife with ladder climbers who feel others are expendable to the supremacy of their personal financial or political aspirations. The banking crisis of 2007-2008 is a perfect example of assertive people pushing their agenda on large populations and profiting at the expense of many. Maybe getting rich quick by selling bad assets could be called sales “leadership” but the ultimate result was global disaster.
What is needed more than anything else for future generations of Americans is a profound sense of social responsibility, service before self, self-discipline and humility. These values develop character which in turn creates legitimacy for command.
If a person is used to getting everything they want, everything becomes expendable to that person. People who are used to leading but never serving will not understand key command principles that include legal authority, human morale, protection of property or stewardship of resources. Under crisis or emergency situations, the bossy person’s priorities tend to be self-centered whereas a true commander can be trusted to know the right thing and act decisively.
Admiral Hyman G. Rickover, father of the modern nuclear Navy and one of America’s toughest military leaders, famously characterized his selection of reactor candidates in the following manner: “They all have excellent resumes … So what I’m trying to find out is how they will behave under pressure. Will they lie, or bluff, or panic, or wilt? Or will they continue to function with some modicum of competence and integrity?”
Instead of Child A being rewarded for using verbal compliance tactics on the playground, that child should be taught the levels of authority at his or her school: one, the playground is the property of the school, therefore all actions are subject to the rules of the school; two, all persons on the playground are under the supervision of the principal and the teachers or monitors under them; and three, if the ball being used by Child B is that child’s property, supreme authority over that ball belongs to Child B.
A child with command leadership potential would say, “Would you like to play ball with us? We don’t have a ball, but would be honored if you’d join us and let us play with your ball.” That approach shows potential because the child has offered inclusion into a social partnership, respected property ownership of the ball and acted in a manner that fosters morale. Compliance gained through assertiveness is nothing more than acting under color of authority. We rightly call that being bossy. Real command is an honor that is earned and respected, not usurped.
Perhaps the greatest leadership lesson for our modern times can be found in the Bible’s story of Luke 14:8-11 when Jesus said, “When someone invites you to a wedding feast, do not take the place of honor, for a person more distinguished than you may have been invited. If so, the host who invited both of you will come and say to you, ‘Give this person your seat.’ Then, humiliated, you will have to take the least important place. But when you are invited, take the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he will say to you, ‘Friend, move up to a better place.’ Then you will be honored in the presence of all the other guests. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
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